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Relationships can be tricky. There’s the stress they can put you under, the lack of free time you might feel like you have, and all the extra worrying you have to do. For some, these downsides are few and far between — just a natural part of falling in love with someone and spending the rest of your life with them. Nobody’s perfect and, sometimes, you have to take the good with the bad.
For others, these downsides can lead to bad health. Stress, a lack of free time, and excess worrying are not a recipe for living well. So, how can you make sure that you stay healthy in a relationship?
1. Keep Exercising — Even if the Sofa, some Popcorn and a Film with Your Partner Sounds Like Heaven
If you were healthy before your relationship, it’s probably because you had some form of exercise in your life. Exercise can sometimes be unintentional. Rushing to and from work, home, and social commitments is a big part of the single life. By contrast, when people get involved in a relationship, all this jumping from place to place tends to stop. That’s why it’s called “settling down”.
There are obvious positives to this, but an unexpected negative can be that your “settling down” turns into months and years of settling down on the sofa with junk food.
Exercise releases endorphins which can improve your mood and self-esteem, and even help combat mental illness. Doing it with your partner is a great way to spend time together, as you can support each other, push each other further, and ride the exercise high together. Be sure to stay active as you settle down.
2. Make Time for Yourself — Not Just for Your Friends
Of course, you don’t need to exercise with your partner. Your schedules might not make it a possibility and different people enjoy different forms of exercise. As such, there’s nothing wrong with going to the gym, to the pool, or for a run by yourself. In fact, time alone is important for your health, too.
A relationship can make time alone scarce. You wake up next to your partner, go to work with people, come home to your partner, and then go to bed with your partner. Some nights, you might go out with your friends and that’s great, too. However, what’s also important is time with just yourself.
Psychologists argue strongly that time alone is not wasted time — far from it. Time alone is time to consider what matters, what doesn’t, and what true perspective is. In our hyper-connected world, this can be hard enough to achieve when you’re single, and spending your life with someone else doesn’t make this search for solitude any easier. But search for it you should because, when you find true solitude, you might find that all the small problems slip away.
3. Learn How to Deal with the Causes of Stress, as Well as Its Symptoms
Being in a relationship means living a life where stress is more likely. Sometimes, this is because you and your partner argue, but it’s also because caring for someone can be stressful, too. When your partner suffers, you suffer. That’s just what a relationship is.
While a good relationship can minimise stress, no relationship can completely eliminate it. As such, it’s important to learn how to deal with stress.
Stress is a common mental condition that can lead to physical symptoms such as headaches, chest pain, and even an upset stomach. There are ways to deal with the symptoms, such as medication, but it’s better to try and deal with the cause.
Like depression, stress can also be helped by exercise. However, even something as simple as socialising with friends or having a bath can help as well.
About the Author:
Clayton Miller is a founding member partner of KMJ Solicitors, a highly sought-after family law firm in London. Clayton has over fifteen years’ experience as a family law specialist, including divorce and separation as well as offshore trusts, prenuptial agreements and cohabitation law.
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