When it’s time to stop and introspect in order to be happier and healthier

mental wellbeing

There will be a moment in your life when you will feel unmotivated and uninspired. Confused. Not sure of the next step. It happens. To the best of us. Although in the beginning, you may have a clear vision of where you want to go and what you want to achieve, you will have days wondering whether this is the right path to take. Is it really for you? What about if you are not good enough for this? What about if you fail? But maybe you don’t even know where you want to go in the first place?

I am not a mental health expert, neither a psychologist but what I do know is, that our mental health has a profound effect on our physical health and it shouldn’t be neglected. When we reach hardship in life, never-ending stress or a confusion about what to do next, it’s something we should pay attention to and not ignore.

Take some time off, just for yourself. Give yourself a break and focus on YOU, only YOU. You don’t have to be on auto-pilot all the time. Working, shopping, cooking, cleaning, looking after a family. Constant stress and demands from people around you.

At the end, everything adds up and we end up feeling exhausted, lacking energy, unmotivated and uninspired. We are just plodding through. We are stuck. We forget about our goals, our dreams and what makes us happy. And sometimes we are so occupied with our daily to-do lists that nothing else gets our attention.

Is this how you want to live your life? So busy with everything else apart from your own well-being and happiness. Do you ever stop and ask yourself: What do I want? Am I happy? What makes me happy?

Just stopping for a moment and doing some introspection is the first step towards being happier and healthier.

Although we may not know all the answers, introspection will prompt us to wonder and to look, to find answers, to find inspiration, to look somewhere else for advice. And that’s totally ok.

When you start asking yourself questions, answers will come. It’s a good idea to capture those answers, in writing or visually. I think building a vision board or a happiness board is a good way to go. You build a collection of images which will inspire you to go forward. These images can also act just as a reminder of what you love and what makes you happy. Don’t we all need a reminder and inspiration sometimes? 

After doing some introspection I made a decision. A decision to have a break and stop worrying about things that need doing. I am very good at creating long to-do lists with my blog tasks but lately I’ve been facing resistance. Looking at my list did not inspire me and neither did excite me.

My blog is my passion and I have so many great ideas on what to write about in order to help people be healthier and more informed. But writing doesn’t come naturally to me and now after a few months of posting more often than ever, I feel exhausted. I need a break. 

But I am not giving up and definitely not quitting. My blog is there to send a certain message to the outside world, to inspire people and to help them. This is not changing.

What I will do from now on, is just be a little bit kinder to myself – if I don’t feel like writing I won’t and this is not the end of the world. And I will pay more attention to self-care and my happiness from now on. I will work on my happiness board and I will try not to get lost in my to-do lists.

What this means for my blog is that maybe my posts won’t be regular and there may be more guest posts scheduled. My social media could be all over the place as well. One day I may feel I have a lot to say, other days I may feel uninspired or just taking a break.

I accept that I am not perfect, no matter how much I’ve been trying to be in the past few months. I don’t have to do everything. From now on I am going to put my mental wellbeing first and try not to be so hard on myself.

This is the only way as otherwise how can you stay healthy when you are mentally exhausted and you are pushing yourself too far, forgetting about things that really matter?

We are all different and what works for me may not work for you. Just do whatever works for you. But don’t just stand there and do nothing, do something! Especially if you feel overwhelmed in your life and unhappiness is taking over you.

Remember, your mental health and happiness is really important. When you are not happy, stressed and do everything on autopilot, things can go downhill very quickly. Emotional eating takes over. Self-care is forgotten. Stress drains your energy and gives you health issues. You gain weight.

So, don’t neglect yourself and just take the first baby steps towards happiness and better mental wellbeing. Stop right now. Introspect. Ask yourself lots of questions. And then go and do what you have to do.